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Don Boivin's avatar

I know you’ve narrowed it down already, but another option could be “Finding Strength in Your Gentle Self”

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Kelly Flanagan's avatar

I love the first two so much, and Don's new suggestion below! I voted for option #2 only because "self-compassion" is loaded with connotations but not a ton of clarity, though it may speak clearly to your ideal reader. I think that's why I like Don's idea below. "Gentle" is a less complicated word. FWIW!

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Matthew Sloane's avatar

Thanks for weighing in, Kelly! Can you say more about the connotations you feel with the word "self-compassion"?

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Kelly Flanagan's avatar

I guess it has less to do with connotation and more to do with clarity of definition. I'm not sure if you asked the typical person what self-compassion is that they would know how to describe it. Whereas everyone instantly knows what gentleness is.

Then again, ChatGPT says that self-compassion is trending positively for men! The prompt was how do men view self compassion...

Men's views on self-compassion can be influenced by a variety of factors, including cultural norms, societal expectations, and personal experiences. Here are some key points to consider:

1. **Cultural and Societal Norms**: Traditional masculine norms often emphasize stoicism, self-reliance, and toughness. These norms can make it challenging for some men to embrace self-compassion, which involves recognizing one's own suffering, being kind to oneself, and understanding that imperfection is part of the human experience.

2. **Perception of Weakness**: Some men might view self-compassion as a sign of weakness or vulnerability. The idea of being kind to oneself, especially in moments of failure or distress, can conflict with the expectation to always be strong and in control.

3. **Mental Health Awareness**: Increasing awareness about mental health and the benefits of self-compassion is gradually changing perceptions. Men who are more informed about mental health may view self-compassion more positively, recognizing it as a crucial component of well-being.

4. **Personal Experiences**: Men who have faced significant stress, trauma, or mental health challenges might be more inclined to practice self-compassion as a coping mechanism. Personal experiences can shape one's understanding and acceptance of self-compassion.

5. **Role Models and Influences**: Public figures and role models who advocate for self-compassion and mental health can influence how men view these concepts. Positive endorsements from respected individuals can help reduce stigma and encourage more men to adopt self-compassionate practices.

6. **Individual Differences**: Personal traits, such as empathy and emotional intelligence, can also play a role in how men view self-compassion. Men who are naturally more empathetic and emotionally aware may find it easier to practice and value self-compassion.

Overall, while some men might struggle with the concept of self-compassion due to ingrained societal expectations, there is a growing recognition of its importance for mental and emotional health. This shift is supported by increased mental health advocacy and changing cultural norms around masculinity and emotional expression.

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Matthew Sloane's avatar

Got it. Okay, this is good info. Thanks Kelly and Chat GPT! 🤠

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Don Boivin's avatar

I like the word “gentle” but the third choice is sort of a mashup of two statements. I also like the word “sensitivity” so I will go with the second choice.

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Matthew Sloane's avatar

Agreed. The third one, doesn't roll off the tongue as easily.

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Will T's avatar

I cast my vote, but honestly these are all great. Congrats on the new book. I loved the last one and I know this is going to rock as well :)

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Matthew Sloane's avatar

Thanks Will !

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Matthew Sloane's avatar

So many good choices, thank you for this addition, Don.

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